I am
a Military wife
a mother
a stay at home wife
a home schooling mom
a short order cook
the maid and well so many other things.
Yet none of those things give me the feeling that I got today. As a first time business owner and only about 6 weeks into starting my business. Though really lets face the facts that I did not honestly work at all until 2 weeks ago. I kept saying I was going to work but I failed to follow through with working much at all.
Today when my children ( who love to check the mail ) brought me something that has changed my life. In a way that I didn't think it would ever be changed since being a stay at home mom has been my life for the past like .... well since I had my oldest 11 almost 12 years ago. I have done odd jobs and gone to school for random things. None of which I honestly felt like I was working nor did I really enjoy doing.
Yet today that all changed for the better, I think for the better at least.
I got my very first pay check from Beach Body and let me just say WOW!
The feeling of having a honest to God check that is made out to you in your hand is amazing!!!!
It is a feeling I could not for the life of me explain. It is not just about the amount of money that
I personally earned. It is all about the fact that I know I can earn money all on my own with out anyone doing it for me. I don't need to be a stay at home mom or wife. I could go out and work like any one else.
However to know that I can be at home with my kids and do everything I would normally be doing during the day. Yet make a few $100 dollars to put towards any thing I want. Well that feeling takes my breathe away. I know my husband makes good money and we have extra income coming in already. I do not have to work by any means as we have a pretty great life. But I did it and dang it I am proud of myself.
I know it is just the first of many paychecks to come but the comfort of knowing that if God forbid. Something were to happen to my husband where he could not work. I could in fact support our family all by myself.
Most of my life I have felt as if I could not do anything. That I wasn't good enough to do anything with my life besides be a mother and lets face it some people think I don't even do that well enough. I know that all those feelings stem from the abuse I went through for most of my life. From my birth mother and birth siblings who felt that I will never be good enough. Not with my life being a life that those people could only dream about. I know that they can not hold me back anymore since it has been such a long time since I allowed that mess into my life.
Anyhow I am excited to know that I can stand on my own and that my husband is very proud of me for every step I have taken. He loves and supports me more than any one has ever supported me in my life. He was just as proud of my check today as I am.
EEEEEEKKKKKK!! Y'all for real I am so excited about my check! I am so excited that I am rocking my own business and loving every moment of it. This was the boost I needed to see that the things I am doing every day are in fact paying off, for me and my family.
As silly as that might sound to some, that little paper check. It meant so much to me and it is the step I needed. To for once feel proud of myself for how far I have come these past few years. To know that where I started in life is in fact not where I have to end up.
That check was everything I could have ever dreamt of it to be and then some.
Thank you everyone who has been there and shared this journey with me. I can not wait to see where the next 6 weeks will take me!
If you are looking for an amazing career, a job you can take with you.
No matter where you would go or what path in life you were to take.
Check out my website, emailing me if you have any questions.
I am always here for y'all!
Tuesday, March 14, 2017
Wednesday, February 1, 2017
What is MLM ( Multi-level marketing ) and How Does it work?
Military life is filled with tons of ups and down and finding a career you love is no easy task.
When Your Looking For:
* You need a career that can move with you no matter where you pcs around the world.
* Will give you the freedom to drop what ever work you are doing and parent, pcs, go to Military functions or do anything else that might come up.
* You have to be able to restart your business no matter where you end up.
* Little to set up cost as military life isn't what some think. They don't get paid a lot of money.
" Benefits " are not free. So starting a business can't cost a whole lot and schooling to find a good career that can go with the flow. That is so hard!
* Weekly pay you need to get that pay check every week.
However where and how do you find a job that can be everything you need it to be?
In the military life style there are not many options for careers. Most of us know at least a few wives who have started their own businesses. No matter if its photography, selling crafts, or the ever difficult sales business. ( Beachbody, Jewelry in candles, Thirty-One gifts, Avon, Mary Kay, doTerra etc. ) The list of MLM companies and businesses go on and on.
They are the companies that allow wives to change their world and bring in the income they want. However lets face it they have a reputation as " waste of time and money." That they are " just another scam to take you money. " You know those " pushy sales " wives who try to sell anything to anyone just to make a dollar.
For those who don't know MLM is Multi-level marketing. That means you start on the bottom rank and then with members you have " join you team." As well as sales you make with in the month. There are different systems but they are all pretty much the same from what I have learned.
There are those people who say that these companies are all a scam and not to go any where near them. However I would like to start by pointing a few things out. When you join the Military or most companies. You start out on the bottom of the company and you have to go up the ranks. Each rank requires a certain list of things in order to move up to the next rank. The way I see it Companies who allow people to start independent businesses at home or where ever. Are no different than any other companies out there. You start at the bottom and work your way up the company latter rank by rank. The only real difference in these types of companies is that you are the boss on how quickly or slowly you go up the ranks. Not everyone is cut out for these types of businesses and not everyone should be part of them even if they are already part of them. No one enjoys a pushy annoying sales person trying way too hard to make you sale or buy things you don't want in your life. However from the research I have done I don't think all " at home " businesses are made equally at all.
The way to tell which company are right for you and your life style is all about figuring out what you want. As well as what you need in your life and when you need it. I am going to use myself as an example. For me I have never found a company I believed in, at least not fully believed in. I have looked around at many different companies and yes there are some really great companies out there.
However that has not stopped me from joining a few different companies through out my life. One of which was Beachbody.... yes I said it I joined beachbody. However the company was not right for me as I had no idea what beachbody was. Back in 2010 when I joined the company I was not a Military wife, I had no idea what beachbody was nor what it meant for me. So it lasted all of 30 days and I was over it with out a second thought or a moment of being trained by my " mentor." This is the story with so many people out there searching for a great business that they love. It's not that the company has failed those of us who don't do well in these businesses.
1. Our mentors were not the ones for us and they did not help us in the way that they should have or that we needed.
2. We didn't start the business for the right reasons.
3. We don't take it serious as a real business.
4. We did not follow the system that we had been taught with in our company.
Those 4 reasons are the ones that are the most common of why a business does not do well. Yet the companies so often blame others for their businesses not doing very well. They say that the company was the reason they failed or because they did not want to push products on their friends and families.
I was one of these people lord knows I felt it was everyone fault but my own. Until I took a step back and decided years later that I was going to research these companies. I knew I wanted to set my own hours, that I loved to help people, to change peoples lives. I needed my business to move with me with out a lot of paper work. Being a Military wife I knew that we could get stationed any where in the world so my business couldn't take up much space. I didn't want to keep inventory at all. It had to be something that I could do in my own time.To get paid every week and not have to question when I would get my pay check. So joining one of the MLM company's seemed like the best idea and the only real option for me.
Working my way down the list of companies I found myself right back where I had once been many years ago. Looking beachbody right back in the eyes and questioning if it was the right one for me. If maybe having a new mentor would change things. So I researched and talked to actual beachbody coaches who were the best of the best. They loved what they do , they made over $100,000 a year ( they showed me the proof. ) and yet they all said the same thing. They don't sell anything at all, they don't ask anyone to buy anything. All they do is share their story, their lives each and every day on social media sites. They help others learn to do the same and the customers come to them, they don't go out nagging people to buy things or keep any inventory.
So I asked myself the question that they had asked me.
Can you work out 4 days a week?
Share your story?
Drink a shake once a day 5 days a week? ( or every day )
and hire a team who wants to do the same thing?
There is it.... the 4 questions that can change your life for the better or allow you to keep going the way you have been up until this point.
For me, The answers were yes .... to every question YES! I wanted that, I could do that. But that is not where the questions stopped for me. I had to learn more about what beach body really was.
This is what I knew about the company....
They sold at home work outs, dvds and shakes that were to replace the meals. That was it all I knew about the company from back when I was a " coach " for my 30 days.
However from a little more search and talking to my wonderful friends who were rocking it as coaches. I learned that beachbody was not selling work out dvds at all. Yes it use to be and lord knows I couldn't do that again. Beach body on demand had it all over 6000 work outs at the tip of your finger. No more dvds, no more spending $1000's of dollars on a crazy amount of dvds just so you could have a choice of different work outs depending on your mood. All for a cheap price and there were actually a ton of options not a set. pay this and you get that style.
Yall that was it! I learned so much and I knew that was the one thing that honestly was stopping me from doing this. So Here I am sitting here as a beach body coach. Today is the first day of the rest of my life. I share my story with others and from there if they too want to change their world. Everyone joins for their own personal reasons. Some to make a full time income at home, to have time with their family. To travel the world and still be able to work. The list goes on and on and that is the great thing about this company. Your reasons are your own, your story is your own and your business is your own. I cant tell you where my story will end up or where I will be a month from now. But I do know that my business will go with me. My family gets to come first always and I am in control of my own future. I could do all the good I want in the world and help others make the changes they have been wanting to make.
........ And so the journey starts here ........
When Your Looking For:
* You need a career that can move with you no matter where you pcs around the world.
* Will give you the freedom to drop what ever work you are doing and parent, pcs, go to Military functions or do anything else that might come up.
* You have to be able to restart your business no matter where you end up.
* Little to set up cost as military life isn't what some think. They don't get paid a lot of money.
" Benefits " are not free. So starting a business can't cost a whole lot and schooling to find a good career that can go with the flow. That is so hard!
* Weekly pay you need to get that pay check every week.
However where and how do you find a job that can be everything you need it to be?
In the military life style there are not many options for careers. Most of us know at least a few wives who have started their own businesses. No matter if its photography, selling crafts, or the ever difficult sales business. ( Beachbody, Jewelry in candles, Thirty-One gifts, Avon, Mary Kay, doTerra etc. ) The list of MLM companies and businesses go on and on.
They are the companies that allow wives to change their world and bring in the income they want. However lets face it they have a reputation as " waste of time and money." That they are " just another scam to take you money. " You know those " pushy sales " wives who try to sell anything to anyone just to make a dollar.
For those who don't know MLM is Multi-level marketing. That means you start on the bottom rank and then with members you have " join you team." As well as sales you make with in the month. There are different systems but they are all pretty much the same from what I have learned.
There are those people who say that these companies are all a scam and not to go any where near them. However I would like to start by pointing a few things out. When you join the Military or most companies. You start out on the bottom of the company and you have to go up the ranks. Each rank requires a certain list of things in order to move up to the next rank. The way I see it Companies who allow people to start independent businesses at home or where ever. Are no different than any other companies out there. You start at the bottom and work your way up the company latter rank by rank. The only real difference in these types of companies is that you are the boss on how quickly or slowly you go up the ranks. Not everyone is cut out for these types of businesses and not everyone should be part of them even if they are already part of them. No one enjoys a pushy annoying sales person trying way too hard to make you sale or buy things you don't want in your life. However from the research I have done I don't think all " at home " businesses are made equally at all.
The way to tell which company are right for you and your life style is all about figuring out what you want. As well as what you need in your life and when you need it. I am going to use myself as an example. For me I have never found a company I believed in, at least not fully believed in. I have looked around at many different companies and yes there are some really great companies out there.
However that has not stopped me from joining a few different companies through out my life. One of which was Beachbody.... yes I said it I joined beachbody. However the company was not right for me as I had no idea what beachbody was. Back in 2010 when I joined the company I was not a Military wife, I had no idea what beachbody was nor what it meant for me. So it lasted all of 30 days and I was over it with out a second thought or a moment of being trained by my " mentor." This is the story with so many people out there searching for a great business that they love. It's not that the company has failed those of us who don't do well in these businesses.
1. Our mentors were not the ones for us and they did not help us in the way that they should have or that we needed.
2. We didn't start the business for the right reasons.
3. We don't take it serious as a real business.
4. We did not follow the system that we had been taught with in our company.
Those 4 reasons are the ones that are the most common of why a business does not do well. Yet the companies so often blame others for their businesses not doing very well. They say that the company was the reason they failed or because they did not want to push products on their friends and families.
I was one of these people lord knows I felt it was everyone fault but my own. Until I took a step back and decided years later that I was going to research these companies. I knew I wanted to set my own hours, that I loved to help people, to change peoples lives. I needed my business to move with me with out a lot of paper work. Being a Military wife I knew that we could get stationed any where in the world so my business couldn't take up much space. I didn't want to keep inventory at all. It had to be something that I could do in my own time.To get paid every week and not have to question when I would get my pay check. So joining one of the MLM company's seemed like the best idea and the only real option for me.
Working my way down the list of companies I found myself right back where I had once been many years ago. Looking beachbody right back in the eyes and questioning if it was the right one for me. If maybe having a new mentor would change things. So I researched and talked to actual beachbody coaches who were the best of the best. They loved what they do , they made over $100,000 a year ( they showed me the proof. ) and yet they all said the same thing. They don't sell anything at all, they don't ask anyone to buy anything. All they do is share their story, their lives each and every day on social media sites. They help others learn to do the same and the customers come to them, they don't go out nagging people to buy things or keep any inventory.
So I asked myself the question that they had asked me.
Can you work out 4 days a week?
Share your story?
Drink a shake once a day 5 days a week? ( or every day )
and hire a team who wants to do the same thing?
There is it.... the 4 questions that can change your life for the better or allow you to keep going the way you have been up until this point.
For me, The answers were yes .... to every question YES! I wanted that, I could do that. But that is not where the questions stopped for me. I had to learn more about what beach body really was.
This is what I knew about the company....
They sold at home work outs, dvds and shakes that were to replace the meals. That was it all I knew about the company from back when I was a " coach " for my 30 days.
However from a little more search and talking to my wonderful friends who were rocking it as coaches. I learned that beachbody was not selling work out dvds at all. Yes it use to be and lord knows I couldn't do that again. Beach body on demand had it all over 6000 work outs at the tip of your finger. No more dvds, no more spending $1000's of dollars on a crazy amount of dvds just so you could have a choice of different work outs depending on your mood. All for a cheap price and there were actually a ton of options not a set. pay this and you get that style.
Yall that was it! I learned so much and I knew that was the one thing that honestly was stopping me from doing this. So Here I am sitting here as a beach body coach. Today is the first day of the rest of my life. I share my story with others and from there if they too want to change their world. Everyone joins for their own personal reasons. Some to make a full time income at home, to have time with their family. To travel the world and still be able to work. The list goes on and on and that is the great thing about this company. Your reasons are your own, your story is your own and your business is your own. I cant tell you where my story will end up or where I will be a month from now. But I do know that my business will go with me. My family gets to come first always and I am in control of my own future. I could do all the good I want in the world and help others make the changes they have been wanting to make.
........ And so the journey starts here ........
Friday, January 20, 2017
The View From My Seat
Today, As I was sitting in my kitchen watching the start of the Inauguration of Trump.
Reading my facebook news feed I found myself thinking back to one of my personal favorite Christmas movies. In the movie you hear the story about how the 'man' wanted to steal all of the things that represented Christmas. He thought that by stealing these items that he could some how stop Christmas from coming. At the end of the movie he learned that he couldn't stop it no matter how hard he tried.
Today I know that there are so many people who are unhappy with who is becoming our President for the next 4 years. I have watched the videos, read the post and heard all of the ' points .' Of why some think that Trump is not our true President and that someone else should be taking office today.
However that is just not the case, Trump is now the President of our country. This is not the first time nor will it be the last one where some people will end up unhappy about who is taking office. Every 4 years we go through this same thing and we will again go through this again in 4 more years.
Can protesting and blasting your anger and upset all over the internet really change anything? .... No
Can spreading hate and anger ever change anything? .... No, at least nothing good can come of it.
This election did not start in 2016 as we as a country put this day into motion years ago. We either voted for or failed to vote for those who are in power right now. Yes I said that! It doesn't matter who you voted for in November. What matters was who you either did or did not put into office long before that. No matter how small your town in, or how large your city happens to be. We as the people are the ones who have the power to make the changes. How many of us sit at home and don't " bother " with voting for anything beyond for the President every 4 years? How many of us talk to our children or the youth at large about their rights to vote? .... How many of us talk to our children about the respect you should have for whom ever is in a position of power? I can say that I honestly did not before 2016 speak to my children about any of these things. I had never followed the president , elections or anything of the kind. It was not a factor in my life because " what does my vote matter when the electoral votes are all that matter." I would quote that every time I had seen someone blasting all over facebook or where ever. About how our vote matters and to me I was speaking the truth.
I was wrong and so were the bitter teachers many years ago who told me that. Our vote matters, we matter. Our country as a whole matters more than most of us care to admit. We learned about voting for the President in school. Yet not once did anyone tell us about the small things that matter way more than the Presidential vote. The Mayors, Senators, school boards, Governors etc. Each of these votes matter, because these are the people we put in power. With their power comes the power of the electoral vote. ( Yes clearly I spoke of some smaller ones that might not matter as much when it comes to electoral votes but it was the point that every time you can vote you SHOULD vote! )
" Electoral Votes: The Electoral College is made up of 538 electors who cast votes to decide The President and Vice President if the United States. "
We the people have the power, we put each and every one of the elected officials in office no matter how big or small. Into the office that they sit in right now and that is just facts. If we do not go out and use our power to vote every chance we can. Then we are giving up the power to have say in who these smaller officials put in as the head of our country.
To all of those who are so very unhappy with our President right now. I am sorry for your pain and heartbreak. I can only hope that you will like many before you, take a step back from your anger. Take this day with grace and pray for our President to have the giving loving true heart that every President needs to have. That he will love our country as we do and do right by the country as a whole. To all of those who are excited and happy to have someone as the President that you truly believe in. That they think will really ' Make America Great Again.' Take a moment and see that it is not about ' your candidate ' winning or losing the election. It is all about our country as a whole coming together. Being understanding about the upset of those supporters. Of the other parties who did not take office as they had wanted. There are always things each of us can do to make our country better and violence, anger and hurting other in any way is never the answer.
I encourage all of you no matter where you stand on this issue to. Look to the future and know that the only way to make a true change in this country is to teach our children and grand children and youth as a whole. About the power of voting not only for President but for every elected official. As we all learned in school the only way to change the world is to action.
This day is marked for ever in history, as the day that our country gained a new President. It is a day we should come together and start thinking of the great things to come. Your party doesn't matter, the color of your skin doesn't matter nor does the amount of money in your bank account. We are all Americans and as such we should be proud that today we have a new leader. We should pray for all those in positions of power no matter who small. Respect that in the coming hours and days there might be some unhappiness. No one knows if President Trump will keep to his word about things he has stated he will do as our President. We do know that as a country one of his jobs will be to bring our country together. Will he? Can he? Those are questions for another day. However we do know that the anger will once again fade and once again live to vote another day.
At least that is my view from my seat over looking my own little world.
Reading my facebook news feed I found myself thinking back to one of my personal favorite Christmas movies. In the movie you hear the story about how the 'man' wanted to steal all of the things that represented Christmas. He thought that by stealing these items that he could some how stop Christmas from coming. At the end of the movie he learned that he couldn't stop it no matter how hard he tried.
Today I know that there are so many people who are unhappy with who is becoming our President for the next 4 years. I have watched the videos, read the post and heard all of the ' points .' Of why some think that Trump is not our true President and that someone else should be taking office today.
However that is just not the case, Trump is now the President of our country. This is not the first time nor will it be the last one where some people will end up unhappy about who is taking office. Every 4 years we go through this same thing and we will again go through this again in 4 more years.
Can protesting and blasting your anger and upset all over the internet really change anything? .... No
Can spreading hate and anger ever change anything? .... No, at least nothing good can come of it.
This election did not start in 2016 as we as a country put this day into motion years ago. We either voted for or failed to vote for those who are in power right now. Yes I said that! It doesn't matter who you voted for in November. What matters was who you either did or did not put into office long before that. No matter how small your town in, or how large your city happens to be. We as the people are the ones who have the power to make the changes. How many of us sit at home and don't " bother " with voting for anything beyond for the President every 4 years? How many of us talk to our children or the youth at large about their rights to vote? .... How many of us talk to our children about the respect you should have for whom ever is in a position of power? I can say that I honestly did not before 2016 speak to my children about any of these things. I had never followed the president , elections or anything of the kind. It was not a factor in my life because " what does my vote matter when the electoral votes are all that matter." I would quote that every time I had seen someone blasting all over facebook or where ever. About how our vote matters and to me I was speaking the truth.
I was wrong and so were the bitter teachers many years ago who told me that. Our vote matters, we matter. Our country as a whole matters more than most of us care to admit. We learned about voting for the President in school. Yet not once did anyone tell us about the small things that matter way more than the Presidential vote. The Mayors, Senators, school boards, Governors etc. Each of these votes matter, because these are the people we put in power. With their power comes the power of the electoral vote. ( Yes clearly I spoke of some smaller ones that might not matter as much when it comes to electoral votes but it was the point that every time you can vote you SHOULD vote! )
" Electoral Votes: The Electoral College is made up of 538 electors who cast votes to decide The President and Vice President if the United States. "
We the people have the power, we put each and every one of the elected officials in office no matter how big or small. Into the office that they sit in right now and that is just facts. If we do not go out and use our power to vote every chance we can. Then we are giving up the power to have say in who these smaller officials put in as the head of our country.
To all of those who are so very unhappy with our President right now. I am sorry for your pain and heartbreak. I can only hope that you will like many before you, take a step back from your anger. Take this day with grace and pray for our President to have the giving loving true heart that every President needs to have. That he will love our country as we do and do right by the country as a whole. To all of those who are excited and happy to have someone as the President that you truly believe in. That they think will really ' Make America Great Again.' Take a moment and see that it is not about ' your candidate ' winning or losing the election. It is all about our country as a whole coming together. Being understanding about the upset of those supporters. Of the other parties who did not take office as they had wanted. There are always things each of us can do to make our country better and violence, anger and hurting other in any way is never the answer.
I encourage all of you no matter where you stand on this issue to. Look to the future and know that the only way to make a true change in this country is to teach our children and grand children and youth as a whole. About the power of voting not only for President but for every elected official. As we all learned in school the only way to change the world is to action.
This day is marked for ever in history, as the day that our country gained a new President. It is a day we should come together and start thinking of the great things to come. Your party doesn't matter, the color of your skin doesn't matter nor does the amount of money in your bank account. We are all Americans and as such we should be proud that today we have a new leader. We should pray for all those in positions of power no matter who small. Respect that in the coming hours and days there might be some unhappiness. No one knows if President Trump will keep to his word about things he has stated he will do as our President. We do know that as a country one of his jobs will be to bring our country together. Will he? Can he? Those are questions for another day. However we do know that the anger will once again fade and once again live to vote another day.
At least that is my view from my seat over looking my own little world.
Wednesday, November 16, 2016
Before My First FRG Meeting Ever
Sitting here all I can think about is all of the bad things that I have heard and read about the FRG. ( Family Readiness Group ) There has been time and time again where I have said that I wanted there to be an FRG here at Fort Leavenworth. Yet there still in the past year and a half has not been any hint that there will be a new FRG started at all.
Until the day that my husband's First Sgt and his girl friend came to the hospital after our youngest son decided to come 6 weeks early. They made it clear that his girl friend was taking the steps to become the FRG leader and that there would be an upcoming meeting. When hearing this I was so excited to be able to actually go to my first FRG meeting but at the same time. I was scared to go to a meeting with out my husband and knowing that my children will be going with me.
As someone who has never been to an FRG meeting it is something I want to do but I am scared to do it. My husband will be at work so he will not be there with me. I don't know anyone at all here that is part of his unit or heck anyone on post at all. Even though I have tried I have not gotten to know anyone beyond facebook.
Sitting in my husband truck out side of his company build, with not only our two older children but our baby as well all in tow. I could not make myself get out of the truck no matter how hard I tried. I was scared to death of the horror stories I had heard from other wives or worse happening. I know that every says a " proper " Family Readiness Group was not a wives group, nor a place to have fun and meet people. That It was all about the company and raising money. However I kind of had my hopes deep down in side that I would meet my Leavenworth best friend at the FRG meeting.
I know I know how totally silly of me to think that I would find that person I click with at my very first FRG meeting, or dare I say a whole group of awesome wives to befriend. I knew it had to be done so I took a deep breathe and told the kids to get out and " lets do this thing I guess." Oh buddy let me just tell you that a side from there of course my husband First Sgt's nice girl friend no one really spoke. There wasn't a real chance to make friends and honestly if it wasn't for my husband thinking I should keep trying to be part of this whole thing. I would never go back like seriously never in my life. It wasn't that the wives were awful or that the meeting was really that bad. It was just the officer ( whom rank or name I could not tell you if I tried ) who is running the FRG made the whole meeting a business meeting. It wasn't fun or friendly in any way what so ever in my opinion. He's comments about " the frg not being for wives to talk and it's not a wives club " Made me want to get up then and there and leave. It wasn't so much of what he said but how he said it. As if we were just a bunch of fat ugly, worthless wives who had nothing better to do then drag out kids to a cold building. To listen to him put us down and act as if he was too good to even be bothering with the frg meetings at all.
I get it really I do but come on, there was only like 4 wives there to start with and some random guys. Some the husbands of those wives and others that were clearly forced to be there. It was uncomfortable enough with out his making his speech about how this is an FRG it is just for information. It is not for fun blah blah blah. Come on now!!
I think I get it , or at least more to the point I get what some men are like when it comes to the FRG. It is not fun and lets face it with the job my husband is doing. He is not going to deploy and heck there isn't really any field training at all. So I am questioning why we cant talk an and enjoy our selves to an extent at the frg meeting. Why can't it be more fun and less like school where you have to raise your hand and wait to be called on in order to ever speak? All I can say is that yes I will return to the next meeting and I will put in more of an effort. I will attend events when I can and when my husband can be there with me. As I might get mouthy if the officer act like he is too good to let wives speak to each other. I know it would be the wrong thing to do but sometimes I can not help myself. More so when I am not getting enough sleep as I am a new mom again. lol
I just want to say thank you to everyone who has helped me along the way and taught me about the frg . How if I don't like it I can always become part of it and try to change some things. I am not saying that I can do it, or that I even have time to do it with 3 kids and their going to Seton/ home study program. However for it being my first ever FRG meeting it is not as bad as I thought it was but not as great as I had hoped. I know I need to find other ways to meet other wives of course. This was a good start to learning to put myself out there and not being scared of what other people think of me. If you have any tips about the FRG or anything to do with the military life or how to do fundraising with the FRG please feel free to share.
Wednesday, October 19, 2016
Shopping Name Brand For Less
I am not a pro by any means when it comes to saving money.
It is something I personally work on every single day. There is never a day where I feel like I can not work on saving money. I don't save money because we are poor, my husband doesn't make enough money etc.
I do it because I really enjoy saving money and seeing the numbers in our saving account get larger.
One of the ways I have found to save money.
It is all about timing!
I am a huge fan of store that give away discount codes!
My kids are like every other child out there. The want to wear nice clothes and we want them to be dressed well.
We believe in children representing their families well.
( I have an up coming blog all about this )
However I do not like to spend $100's of dollars on my kids clothes in what seems like a never ending battle.
Shopping when store such as Crazy8 , Childrens Place, P.S Aeropostale are our favorites. Though I will say that Crazy 8 is my personal favorite place to shop.
On the average year I have a budget for $600 to $800 a year on clothes for my kids. $300 to $400 for the spring/summer months and the same amount for the fall/ winter months. I know that that is A LOT of money compare to some other families out there.
( Though we do donate clothes my children have out grown before we bud any new clothes )
I like to wait until the online stores have the 60% or more off on there clothes and then on top of that. I normally use a 20% off my whole order discount code. ( yes those things really happen and I love seeing that I get normally a goal of 80% off my order. )
When it comes to deals like that I normally spend more money than I plan to. Lucky for me, I always tell my hubby I am going to spend more than I really will. That way he always feels that I am doing great and saving money.... yes I tell a white lie to him. I admit it and I have told him that so times but ya know he is a man and doesn't care much about shopping.
I know from watching these kinds of sites that May/June , October , January is when I see the best sales going on. That is when I shop for the next season to come or sometimes if the deals are really good like these $2 or less tops or play shorts. I love to stalk up and I will buy items a size up for the next year or even for Christmas.
It might sound crazy but if I can buy my kids name brand clothes for less than I would spend if I bought their clothes at walmart or a used clothes store. Then YES I will bust my butt to get those good deals.
You don't have to spend a ton of money to buy name brand clothes!!
Everyone who knows me, knows I am always shopping.
They all make comments to me about my kids clothes and how they always seem to have new clothes and guess what this is my secret!
I buy clothes a year in advance or a few months in advance.
I store the clothes I buy normally in my closet or in my basement because that seem to be the " catch all " places.
This year adding a new baby to the mix and I already have started to shop for next summer.
Yes I got each item ^^ for between $1 and $2.99 and my youngest son already has a nice collection of summer clothes for this coming spring/ summer.
I am by far not a pro at saving money but I am learning more and more every day. If you have any tips to help save money in any area of life.
Feel free to share!
Monday, October 17, 2016
4 Months Into The School Year
Anyone who has kids and home schools or better yet anyone who has kids. Knows that having kids is hard enough with out fearing that your child will not love school. Learning is so important but how do you know if your children really love there school?
Has it really already been 4 months since we made the switch?
Has it really already been 4 months since we made the switch?
I promised that I would post an update on my kids moving to the Seton Home Study Program. Yet I never thought that it would be how great it has been for us. I can honestly say that I heard a lot about this program. The good, bad and ugly of this school came out of the wood work.
Things like....
"There is a lot of book work."
"You can't keep up with the lesson plan day by day."
"The kids love this program, it's unlike any program I have seen. "
" You can customize the program for each of your children."
" You child will do more work in Seton than in any public school I have ever seen. "
Well it's all TRUE!!
This program is not for those who want to ' unschool. '
After a few months of craziness and doing this program. It is honestly the best thing we could have done for our kids. I know when you go down the list for this program grade by grade. It does look like it will be a lot of book work for the kids. However once you dive on in and see what they are doing in the classes it really is not.
Here is a look at how my kids get things done every day.
I am big into writing check list and making it clear what will be done and when. However with Seton we have decided to allow the kids to have the list of what needs to be done for the day. So they can learn time management on there own. They both really do love being able to be free to get things done on there own.
Here is a look at how my kids get things done every day.
I am big into writing check list and making it clear what will be done and when. However with Seton we have decided to allow the kids to have the list of what needs to be done for the day. So they can learn time management on there own. They both really do love being able to be free to get things done on there own.
It's not a perfect picture, its not a commercial grade picture.
It is just real life and for us it is what works the best.
I write subject that my children need to do on the board every night. Along with what they need to get done for that day. ( Yes there are things listed more than once but that is due to my children skipping over items. Then stating that they didn't see some items. So a mom has to do what a mom has to do. lol )
When one of my children complete something on the list for the day. They mark with there color for the day to let me know that they have completed it. It gives them a sense of accomplishment and control. As much as I know and they know that they are not in control most of the time. It is nice to let them be the boss of what they do and when they do it. As long as they get everything done before dinner they are free to do it in any order they want.
My kids normally get all of there class work done by 2 pm every day. Then they are free to play, read or do what every they would like to do.
We have already seen the kids grow into these amazing smart future adults. They are loving there class work every day even on the days when they don't get the grade they should have. The big debate right now is that they want to add a class to the work load that they already have.
So it is still up in the air if they will be allowed to add Latin to there work load this year or not.
However to go from having children who where said to truly struggle with school. Who did not enjoy going to school at all other than to play with there friends. To having my son say his favorite subject in school is hand writing. When it use to be playing with his friends or lunch. My daughter says her favorite subject is now Science. Which was also her favorite subject in public school however she was learning " baby stuff ." In her opinion now she is learning about what she really wants to learn about. She plans to be a cardiovascular surgeon when she grows up. She loves having the chance to start learning about what is her passion in life.
I don't know what the rest of the year has to offer but I can only hope that at the end of the year. They are happy and love there school. That they have learned more than they ever thought that they could learn.
We will keep updating everyone on their progress.
If you have any questions please feel free to keep emailing me or comment and I will try my best to answer.
It is just real life and for us it is what works the best.
I write subject that my children need to do on the board every night. Along with what they need to get done for that day. ( Yes there are things listed more than once but that is due to my children skipping over items. Then stating that they didn't see some items. So a mom has to do what a mom has to do. lol )
When one of my children complete something on the list for the day. They mark with there color for the day to let me know that they have completed it. It gives them a sense of accomplishment and control. As much as I know and they know that they are not in control most of the time. It is nice to let them be the boss of what they do and when they do it. As long as they get everything done before dinner they are free to do it in any order they want.
My kids normally get all of there class work done by 2 pm every day. Then they are free to play, read or do what every they would like to do.
We have already seen the kids grow into these amazing smart future adults. They are loving there class work every day even on the days when they don't get the grade they should have. The big debate right now is that they want to add a class to the work load that they already have.
So it is still up in the air if they will be allowed to add Latin to there work load this year or not.
However to go from having children who where said to truly struggle with school. Who did not enjoy going to school at all other than to play with there friends. To having my son say his favorite subject in school is hand writing. When it use to be playing with his friends or lunch. My daughter says her favorite subject is now Science. Which was also her favorite subject in public school however she was learning " baby stuff ." In her opinion now she is learning about what she really wants to learn about. She plans to be a cardiovascular surgeon when she grows up. She loves having the chance to start learning about what is her passion in life.
I don't know what the rest of the year has to offer but I can only hope that at the end of the year. They are happy and love there school. That they have learned more than they ever thought that they could learn.
We will keep updating everyone on their progress.
If you have any questions please feel free to keep emailing me or comment and I will try my best to answer.
Sunday, October 16, 2016
Expanding Into Vlogging
AHH! Here I go!!
Okay so As much as this scares me so badly. I have ( after my husband and best friends telling me to go for it. ) decided to go a head with my vlog on youtube of course.
I honestly have freaked out big time about this issue. Simply because I am worried that I will get made fun of, no one will watch my videos, I will not be good enough at it or lord so many other crazy things going through my mind.
I have always had a fear of people looking at me. I would rather sit in the back of the room and do my work silently than to have someone look at me. I know that everyone who knows me personally knows I am a loud mouth opinionated woman. That is very true however I have a lot of fears about people looking at me and judging me.
Growing up with a crazy family who puts you down every chance they have ever gotten. Makes me want to run and hide as I know that they will some how find out about my vlog and it will be open season on me. They have gone out of their way time and time again to try to mess up my life. I do not know what I have ever done to these people but I am just done being scared of them. I am done fearing that they will spread their lies and make me out to be trash.
Most families do not act like this or treat any humans this way but its what I was born into so I guess to me it is normal. I have removed those kinds of people out of my life but still as any one knows who has been abused in the past. The fear is always still there that they will come and try to mess up my happy little life just because they think " they have the right. "
With that said .... I will be posting post on here with my videos that I will make. I am not saying they will be the best thing you have ever seen. However its one step at a time with everything I do. I know I need to just jump in head first and not be scared of being myself. No matter what others might thank.
Thank you to everyone who has supported me along the way and that will continue to support me on my next adventure. I could not do it with out the support.
- Stephanie
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