Monday, May 2, 2016

Home School and The Army Wife Battle with in!

One Of my best friends brought this question to me. 

How Do I handle the battle of being a home schooling mom and a good Army Wife?

How do you define your self?

By the job you do?

By the things you love?

By who you believe you are in your heart?

By the actions you take every day?

I am a house wife, a writer,blogger, mother, Army wife and home schooling mom.

Do these things define me?

Honestly yes they do, in my life this is who I am and what I do every day. I never thought that  I would be in the middle of a battle between being a home schooling mom and Army wife.
I have read enough Army wife books to know that I need to be out there helping other wives. Supporting them and helping them when they are in need. 
However how do I do that when I am being a mom 24 hours a day 7 days a week. There is no free time or down time in my week. 
There is no time to take classes and learn what I can do in order to help other wives.
 I know there are tons of volunteer opportunities with in the Army for the wives. 

However how do I find the time to volunteer when I can't even find the time to use the restroom with out kids beating down the bathroom door?

I knew that home schooling would take up a lot of my time when I first started thinking about it. However I thought the benefits for my children out weighted the negative. Now I am dealing with the never ending battle with in myself. To be a better Army wife and to home school my children. 

Can I really be the Army wife I feel like I should be while I am home schooling my kids?

Am I a bad mom if I were to do something differently to help free up some of my time?

How do I learn to balance the two with out sacrificing one of them?

Can I really do both?

In my opinion it all starts with getting organized. If you want to write your own homeschooling curriculum or if you want to go with a program that does that for you. Then you need to decide what kind of Army wife you want to be. As well as what a " good " Army wife is in your mind. There are always ways to do anything in your life that you want to do. It is all about what is important to you and how organized you are or want to be. 
I don't feel like there is a set plan you can follow no matter how your children are home schooled. Use your resources they have child care for most Volunteer positions I have seen. Make friends with other local moms and baby sit for each other. Search out your local baby sitter groups. Every post has a baby sitter page, though some are a little more strict on how you go about finding a baby sitter or becoming a baby sitter. There are always other moms willing to help another Army wife / Military wife out. 
If you can or can not do both be a homeschooling mom and a good Army wife. That is all up to you in the end and no one can say that you can or can not do both. 
There are support groups for just about everything out there. I am not going to say that they are all the best or give true " support."
However they are out there all you have to do is look. 
Decide what you want to do and don't let anyone make you feel like you can't. If working moms can work and raise a family then homeschooling moms can be the Army wives they want to be. 








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