Freedom Of Speech .... For kids

        Yesterday was a day like no other....

  

  For a very unexpected reason at that. At what point is it okay to allow your children to speak their mind?

    What age do we say yes you can say what you think. ( as long as it comes out respectful , open and honest ) 

  

That was my struggle for the past 6 months of my life.

My 8 year old son walked up to me one morning in December 2014 and asked me if it was okay. For him to say what he thinks and feels to someone that he fears. Someone that had been none stop trying to take over his life. ( how he feels )

He struggled with my answer to the question as did I for months of his asking me. If it was time yet that he could speak his mind. Even after he had declared to the world his wishes and wants. Still he felt no one cared or wanted to hear what he had to say.

 He asked me what seemed like every day. At what age he was going to be old enough to be able to say what he wants and thinks. That he will not only be able speak his mind but for it to really matter. To those adults who should allow him to have the freedom to say who he does or does not want in his life.

  I prayed , spoke to my priest, my husband and then I prayed some more. After months if struggling with the question I sat down and had a talk with my kids. ( 8yrs and 9 yrs old ) We decided that as a family we would allow them to speak their minds. That as long as they did this in a way that was respectful in their eyes. That my husband and I would be respectful of our kids wishes.

Parenting is hard enough with out other people trying to control our kids. We decided that their is no age limit for kids to have an opinion. That their age shouldn't matter as long as our kids aren't harming their selves. That they need to keep an open mind because everyone has an opinion.

I'm proud of my kids especially proud of my son for wanting the freedoms. That he as an American citizen has and has the right to not only know but the right to use. 

We try to teach our kids about not only their rights
 but about our country and why its so great.

7 Signs Your Relationship Is Toxic

Now days it seems that way to often people are dating/married to the wrong person.

Oh you know who I'm talking about we all know someone or a few someones. That are with someone they shouldn't be with.

        The way I see it their are ALOT of RED FLAGS! That people simply look right past for whatever their reason maybe. I know I'm guilty as can be of being with the wrong person.

Here are just a few of the BIG warning signs that you need to find someone new and better!

1. The Unlovable!

          The tell you in the way they treat you, the way they look at you and the tone in which they speak to you. Talking down to you as if they know you would never leave them. They ' know ' you couldn't do any better for what ever the reason. But they are wrong you are amazing, special and there are people out their who will adore you if given the chance.

2. They lie to you!

      Even the smallest lie matters, it changes your relationship forever. It means they don't respect you or trust you. If they are lying to you about anything then they might as well be lying to you about everything.

3. They forget about you!

      They seem to forget your alive if your not standing right there by there side. Even then you feel as if you aren't important enough to hold their full attention. They make plans with out you and inconvenience you when they do want to spend time with you. They act asif you should just take the time you get from them.

4. They abuse you!

     They put their hands on you , pushing , smacking, punching. Throwing things at you when they are man. Hitting the wall , doors and all around acting a fool. The reason is so you fear them. If you fear them then they win. They have beaten you down to the point that they know you will never leave.

5.  Trust Issues!

     They are the kind of people who go through your phone. They stalk you when your not with them. They act asif you must stay with them at all times unless they give you the okay. To be around only those who they are okay with. Closing you off from your friends and family members.

6. Selfishness!

    A real partner in life will always put your relationship and your needs above their own. For they truly love you snd your happiness means more to them then their own. A red flag is when they care only about their self. They do what is best for them no matter who gets hurt. They would sell the shirt off your back if it meant saving their own.

7.  Laziness

      If your struggling to pay your own bills and take care of your kids. While All Along your Boyfriend/GirlFriend. Sits at home putting everything on you while they do the bare minimum. Sitting at home not taking care of kids, not cleaning, not helping in any way or only doing a small amount that they should be doing. If your paying a baby sitter or daycare to take care of your kids while your working. Yet your " other half " is sitting on their butt not doing anything. Hello RED FLAG!!

    

  Here is the solution!

Dump who ever it is right now! If you have said yes in your head to even one of the above 7. 

Then its time you change your life

Right now! Today!

You deserve better you are 

Beautiful 

Smart 

Funny

Amazing 

Breathe taking

You can change the world!

There is someone out there right now

Looking for you!

Dreaming of you!

Waiting on you be in the place

And time where you will met each

Other.

So stop wasting you life and time

On someone who doesn't deserve you

Know your self worth

There is no reason good

Enough to stay in

A toxic relationship 

Just look at

The 

Red Flags