Tuesday, February 2, 2016

Females To Be Added To The Military Draft?




I am sorry but what??

Is this a joke?

I do not in any way shape or form agree with all females being added to any Military draft that might happen in the future.

I get some females  want to be " equal " to men and think they should be able to do everything a man does. 

However not all of us want that!
( I am only speaking for myself )

I personally do not want to be any part of the draft. I don't want to be a combat anything. 
I feel like Military wives and those wives of wounded war vets should NOT be added in any draft. 

Having my husband away and taking care of my children on my own is hard enough. Military life is hard enough with out the thought that all of us wives. Might be fighting right there along with our husbands. 
Military wives are said to be a anchor for our troops who are deployed. Loving and supporting them while they are gone during training, the long work days, deployments. Where the soldiers have to miss out on everything going on back home. 
What happens to all of the kids when both of their parents are deployed?
I know that there are tons of  dual Military families out their. 
I respect each and everyone of those families. 
However that was something that they got to decide on their own. 
They were not forced to join the Military.

What about the kids who have already lost a parent or to those kids who only had one parent to start with?
What happens to them when their last parent gets sent off to war all because of a choice someone else made for them?

 To think that I might be drafted and my children could be parent less. All Because someone out there decided that they wanted to be equal to a man. 
I am sorry but NO that is not right at all. 
Just because some want that " right " doesn't mean that every female does. 

All these men who are saying that females should be forced to be added to the draft. Would they send their wives into war?
Would they have their children missing both parents?

How many of these Military officers & men will find a loop hole so their wives are safe from going to war?
I get war is not like it once was, females can fight right there along side of a man. 

If females are forced to be part of the draft how many females will end up getting pregnant just so the Military can't draft them.

Why is it everyone is wanting to push females into the front lines of war but what about the registered sex offenders?
Females are fine to force into the draft but will sex offenders be part of the draft?
I have read online there are always people asking if some one who is a registered sex offender can join he military. 
Under weight people will they be added into the draft?
What about over weight people? 
At this point the Military will not allow sex offenders,under weight people, and over weight people into the Military.
Where do they stand when it comes to the draft? Are they going to get a " get out of jail free card?" Simply due to their past or the numbers on a scale?
Why should females who do not want to go to war and be away from their children be forced into registering for a draft?
When there are tons of people who want to join the Military but are rejected every day?
What about the people who are mentally ill? 
Who are Bio polar will they be allowed to join up if their is a draft?
Where is the line drawn at?

However in my opinion there should be limits to this possible draft.
To be clear I do not agree that single parents, Military wives, Wives that are care givers to their wounded husbands or Gold Star wives  should be added into the Military draft.
 Not now and not ever! 

Saturday, January 30, 2016

Home School Back Up!


I know that like other moms, I find sometimes I am just burned out. 

I need some help and as much as I know there are home school groups out there. 
That are meant to help I just feel out of place with them.
I don't like feeling like I am not able to care for my own children's educational needs.
It's as if I am being judged by everyone I come in contact with. 
I know that might not be true at all. 

However I am so blessed to have a family and friends who have reached out to help. 

My  younger sister has now offered to help me out. 
She will be video chatting with my children and helping with their spelling list. 
She will handle all of their class work when it comes to spelling. 
My kids can video chat with her at any time.

It takes so much off of me when I don't have to worry about their spelling class work and test.

My kids needed a way to be able to have more time with their Aunt and this gives them everything they have been asking for.

I never thought that I would be reaching out to my family members and friends.That I would be the woman who wants out side help. 
Yet here I am questioning why there isn't a free or cheap way get help. 
There should be with as many home schooling families as there are. 
THEN I found it!

A free site that my kids are loving that actually is FREE
It is all about home schooling and helping us parents out.

The site has daily things posted for each kid to do. From Reading, science, history, math, English, and everything in between. They have elective classes that are so wonderful.
classic books online for the kids to read.
Spelling list and you can start at day one or work from any of the 180 days. 
Each grade helps the child explore so many things and honestly I could not love it more. 
My kids love the school so much that they fight to be able to do class work on SATURDAYS! 
Here is the information on the site. I highly recommend you check it out. 
It doesn't matter if  your child is home schooled, in public or private school. If you want to help your child keep up where they were or catch up during the summer time. It tracks everything and keeps it in on simple location. 

Great for home schooling as all of your records can be kept in the same place and you can simply print it out if need be. 

DiscoveryK12




Wednesday, January 6, 2016

At War With Your In Laws

I have been married for 2 and a half years. 

From the start my in laws have not liked me in any way whats so ever. 
No matter how much I try I just can not get those people to like me.

I understand I was married and had two kids with my ex husband.
I understand that I am not a perfect person. 
I could understand if my in laws were the kind of people who have been married forever and had two kids and divorce had never happened to them.

However that is NOT the case! 

My father in law was divorced with two kids when he remarried my Mother in law. 
They decided to never have kids of their own and so my husband and his brother were the only kids. 
They did not have full custody of the boys when they were growing up.

So for my in laws to tell me how to raise my children. Well this is driving me crazy. My in laws think that I should  not being home schooling my children. 

When I say my in laws well my father in law is the kind of man who doesn't have a back bone. 

My mother in law runs everything when it comes to my in laws. 
She believes that " home schooling is not a good way to teach children. That we to put our children back into public school where they can ' learn the best.'
That the children need to be able to learn from a real curriculum.

She goes out of her way to not only tell me face to face what her opinion is. 
She goes out of her way to post it all over every status I post that has to do with homeschooling. 

Making sure that my whole world knows just how awful she believes home schooling really is. 

We have been " at war " before over pretty much everything. From their wanting my husband to divorce me. 
To their opinion on if we should or should not have more children.

Every topic from Christmas dinner to buying
 a house has caused a war. 
My husband is the kind of man who doesn't care about what his family thinks or says. 

Home Schooling is the one thing that my husband and I both believe in. The only way I would want to put my children back in public school is if we got moved to Texas.
As Texas does not have common core and we very much dislike common core. 

We have shared links and explained why we think home schooling is better than any public school. 

I feel like I am all alone in this never ending battle against not only my in laws but everyone. 
I feel like everyone wants to attack us over our choice to home school. 
Our kids love home schooling, they enjoy being able to have a say in what they learn.
I never had an idea of how much drama we would have to go through just over deciding to home school.

These wars will never end I know that no matter how hard we fight. Their will be another battle right around the corner just waiting for us to think we can breathe.

I have read other blogs and books that all say that you have to stand up for your self. 
That their will always be people who want to fight with you for the   decisions you make. Some battles are worth fighting and some battles aren't.
I haven't been a home schooling mom for as long as some of those out there. However I know my kids are getting a great education. 
I know that even through the hard days it is all worth it. 
Watching my children grow and explore the world around them. Seeing the excitement in their eyes when they learn something that blows their minds. 

Those moments makes all the fights with my in laws and random strangers worth it. 

This battle is far from over, it may never be over. 
That is okay with me because I will never back down.
I will never allow anyone to try to make me feel bad for not wanting my kids to deal with common core.
I am proud of how my kids are turning out and the relationship I have with them. 
Home schooling might not be for everyone but right now.
 It is for my family at this point in time. 



Thursday, December 31, 2015

New Year New Plan!



2015 
was all about:

 Our family

Starting our home school Journey

Having a baby

learning what its like to be together as a family.

It was filled with ups and downs
With tears of pure joy and heart breaking fear.

It was not the year I thought it would be but it was surly one heck of a ride. 

 2016!

Here we come!

This year I am going to hit all my goals.

1. Watch my family grow.
2. Have a beautiful healthy baby in July/August
3. Get my house in order
4. Save money each month for our big family vacation next summer.
5. Have a closer relationship with my little sister NeNe
6. Get in shape after I have the baby
7. Grow my home business
8. Have a closer relationship with God
9. Pay off my car
10. Be a better home schooling mom

I have learned in the past not to set too many goals for a the new year. That when I do I never seem to go through with hardly any of them. 
This year I decided to keep it simple and try to stick with the most important things in life. 

My family, my future, and  God!

I am also having my kids make their own list  for this year. 
I want them to learn to set goals in their lives and to work hard to reach those goals. 
 I don't know what this year has to offer my family and I. All I can do is hope, pray and work hard to have the life that I and my family wants. To show my kids that you cant be the person you want to be with out hard work. 

There are so many things I want to teach my kids this year. 
The first step for me is always making a list and deciding what I really want. 

Today is the first step in a long line of  steps I am going to take. I can only hope a year from now I am stand where ever I might be.
Proud of myself for completing all of my goals.

Bring on 2016 and all it has to offer! 







Tuesday, December 22, 2015

Behind The Gates: Fort Leavenworth




This is a warning for anyone who is PCSing to Fort Leavenworth!
From one wifes bad experience to another, I hope you have a better time their than we did. 

In March of this year my husband came home from Korea. 

We made a big move and pcs'd to Fort Leavenworth Kansas only days after he came home. 

I had done so much homework on Fort Leavenworth. 
On the housing, the wives, schools, and the way of life their. 

However the truth behind it all was that it was all just smoke and mirrors. 

With in weeks of getting to Leavenworth the drama leaked into our home. 

Kids coming to our door begging for food and drink. 
( when my children were not even out side playing )

The School allowing trashy books that they allowed my 2nd grader to check out and bring home. 
( the reading level was middle school to high school level ) 

The wives .... the last straw on top of it all. 
Everything I posted on my personal facebook. No matter what it was or why I posted it. I was jumped on for staying everything. 
Everything from homeschooling my children, to being so in love with my husband and even when I had my miscarriages.

I had these wives who thought I was " bitching " and that I should just shut up and do as I am told. Simple because " I was a new wife who had only been married for a year. " 

The bashing went on and on to the point that I started standing up for myself, to the biggest facebook bully of them all. 

I asked her very nicely to " please leave her negative  comments off of my facebook page. "

Then I decided after talking to my husband to simply remove her from my personal facebook page. 
As she and I have never been friends, hadn't seen each other ever in person and had no real relationship. She is the kind of woman who needs tons of friends on facebook. So that she can have something exciting to talk about. Through out her lonely days.

I was trying to end the problem with every status I posted, having to ask her to please not post all her negative comments or opinions on my facebook page. 

For that I had got to see the truth behind why these wives are friendless and have been at the same post for 10+ years. 

This screen shot was sent to me by a few different ladies who where all shocked at what childish length this woman would go to to seek out attention. 




Sadly I have found that most of the wives who backed me up where also the ones who decided to lie. 
Telling all the wives they could get to listen to them. That I posted things on a wives page about all of this when All I did was post a status. 
That was about how unhappy it makes me that I have kids everyday. Coming to my door begging for money, asking for drinks, and fruit snacks. Even though my own children had been sick the whole week. 
Thus they were not out side and if they were I would have given the other kids the same things i give my kids while they are outside. 
It makes me so sad that someone who doesnt even live in the same neighborhood that I had lived. Would want to bash me for something on my personal page. 
It wasnt the first time sense she had bashed me every chance she got on my personal page for everything I posted. 
Going as far as to make fun of my having miscarriages.
I have never met any of these wives face to face. 

I fear for any other wives moving to this post. 
That they will be treat the way I was in the very short time I lived on post. 
After that we bought a house an hour away from post. That  way, hopefully the wives who were going out of their way to try to hurt me. Could not keep doing the things that they were doing. 

After the wives who posted that status  was removed off of my personal facebook page and started her drama and lies about me.

I was removed from every Fort Leavenworth facebook group that there is.
When I asked about why I was removed all I was told was that " I made all of the wives mad when I posted my personal business on one of the public wives pages. That I was not even a Army wife much less a wife of someone stationed on Fort Leavenworth." 
Its sad when I lived on post during all of this that someone so hateful and obsessed over my life would spread such lies about me.
Simply because I would not allow her abuse of myself and my friends to keep going on. I though my personal facebook page was just that. Personal! That I could post and remove any one off of my friends list that I wanted but it turns out. 

That's not true, their are these old Army wives who believe that they run Fort Leavenworth. 


Its sad that just because I am not 40 something years old that someone would try to mess up my marriage, any friendships I had on post. Not to count trying to get her husband to mess up my husbands career. 

For anyone who is thinking of getting stationed their please dont!

If you do and you dont have a choice watch out for the other wives!







Tuesday, December 15, 2015

Maybe Triplets?



Is this real life?

On December 3rd 2015 

At the ER in Kansas City 

The ER ultra sound tech seen 3 sac's meaning that there were 3 babies not just one!

We already have 2 older kids H & J will be 10 & 11 years age difference from the new BABIES!

I went to my doctor on December 8th to check on the babies and have my first appointment of this pregnancy.

Expecting to have a ultra sound that day I was so angry when they refused and told me I had to wait. 

My blood work was done and pee test to prove I am pregnant. I was so angry that even though I went to the ER and confirmed pregnancy the doctor did not care and wanted to do his own test. 

Lucky for me after days of waiting I got my HCG levels back. 

The jump even had the nurse shocked!!

At 16 dpo they were 1701

now they are at 21 dpo a huge 14,956

They more than doubled, in 5 days they went up over 8 times what they were! 

The  ER Tech might just have been right. we might be have triplets!!

I can not wait to officially find out on Monday! hopefully these babies work with us so I will know for sure.

I know at the ER the lady thought she had seen 3 it was just little black blobs so hopefully this time is a better picture. 

Keep us in your prayers! if you have gone through this or are going through this, with any kind of Multiple pregnancy or birth please feel free to comment or email me. I would love other mommies opinions and help! 

(*I know high hcg levels doesn't always mean more than one baby but I think our odds are pretty high. )

Friday, December 11, 2015

The Progress Of My HCG Levels






After 2 miscarriages

Here we are pregnant with another little blessing!

I will be updating 

My HCG levels so far are!

December 3rd, 2015  
16 DPO : 1701  


December 8th, 2015
21 DPO : 14,956