That PCS Itch That Just Wont Quit

I know I can not be the only one who get it!

First off  for those newer to or not in the Military Life style.

PCS is Permanent Change of Station.

I guess I just love to move and explore some where new. 

Because I am going crazy and I want to move so badly.

It is like for real killing me!

I know that moving is stressful, annoying and it means that I will have to research where ever we are going and maybe even having to apply for command sponsorship. 

None of that matters I am just ready!

It has been almost two years since we have moved.... okay well not fully. We bought our house less than a year ago but still. For me I just love to move around and staying still is annoying.We have been wanting to move since well a few months after we got here. With not loving any of the wives at Fort Leavenworth. Not really enjoying it here until we moved into our new house. We have our list all ready for where we would want to move. Like every other Military wife out there .... or so I thought. 

I am an Army wife and the way the Army works is that your MOS ( job ) can go to select Army post. Some jobs can go pretty much any where but my husbands job can't.

We only have a few places where we can go so we know our list and where on that list we would rather go. 

When the time comes we will get a list of open positions for his MOS and rank. From that he pretty much picks which one he wants and he " applies " to get that job at that duty station. That starts when ever they say it starts and then we wait. Either the higher ups say okay and he gets the spot or he gets told no. If he gets told no he either applies for a different spot or if there are no spots then we play the " Hurry up and wait " game. 

Which is what we have been doing for the past year, just waiting to see what his options are. 

Hopefully we can get some good options and get to pcs with in the next year. 

My best friend is a Air Force wife and I just learned from her. That the Air Force can not do that same thing. That they have to go where ever they are told they are going. 

That you can be kicked out of the Air Force for denying orders. However we are hopeful to get to maybe pcs to the same duty station. I just learned about the equals list and though I do not understand how it works fully. 

So this is a learning process with having my best friend marry into a different Branch of the Military. I am just so blessed that she explains the new things that are part of her life to me. So that we still stay connected. It doesn't matter what branch a wife is in because we are all Military spouses. 

I love knowing that I have friends who understand wanting to PCS. I know I am not totally crazy since other wives feel the same way. I think the wait to find out where we will be moving is the hardest thing about the Military wife life right now. Deployment would be so much harder but for my husband that is not an issue right now. 

I personally know that I would love to go to South Korea. That is at the top of my list right now and I wish we could get lucky enough to find out we got orders to South Korea. 

However the place that we have been stationed that I really loved was. Fort Bragg, NC . 

I know I know so many people say they did not enjoy Fort Bragg but I really loved it.... that could be because I am a NC girl. It could be because I had so many great friends there that even the bad times where pretty good. 

If you have a duty station you love or hate feel free to share you opinion with the rest of us. 

Behind The Gates: Fort Leavenworth

This is a warning for anyone who is PCSing to Fort Leavenworth!

From one wifes bad experience to another, I hope you have a better time their than we did. 

In March of this year my husband came home from Korea. 

We made a big move and pcs'd to Fort Leavenworth Kansas only days after he came home. 

I had done so much homework on Fort Leavenworth. 

On the housing, the wives, schools, and the way of life their. 

However the truth behind it all was that it was all just smoke and mirrors. 

With in weeks of getting to Leavenworth the drama leaked into our home. 

Kids coming to our door begging for food and drink. 

( when my children were not even out side playing )

The School allowing trashy books that they allowed my 2nd grader to check out and bring home. 

( the reading level was middle school to high school level ) 

The wives .... the last straw on top of it all. 

Everything I posted on my personal facebook. No matter what it was or why I posted it. I was jumped on for staying everything. 

Everything from homeschooling my children, to being so in love with my husband and even when I had my miscarriages.

I had these wives who thought I was " bitching " and that I should just shut up and do as I am told. Simple because " I was a new wife who had only been married for a year. " 

The bashing went on and on to the point that I started standing up for myself, to the biggest facebook bully of them all. 

I asked her very nicely to " please leave her negative  comments off of my facebook page. "

Then I decided after talking to my husband to simply remove her from my personal facebook page. 

As she and I have never been friends, hadn't seen each other ever in person and had no real relationship. She is the kind of woman who needs tons of friends on facebook. So that she can have something exciting to talk about. Through out her lonely days.

I was trying to end the problem with every status I posted, having to ask her to please not post all her negative comments or opinions on my facebook page. 

For that I had got to see the truth behind why these wives are friendless and have been at the same post for 10+ years. 

This screen shot was sent to me by a few different ladies who where all shocked at what childish length this woman would go to to seek out attention. 

Sadly I have found that most of the wives who backed me up where also the ones who decided to lie. 
Telling all the wives they could get to listen to them. That I posted things on a wives page about all of this when All I did was post a status. 
That was about how unhappy it makes me that I have kids everyday. Coming to my door begging for money, asking for drinks, and fruit snacks. Even though my own children had been sick the whole week. 
Thus they were not out side and if they were I would have given the other kids the same things i give my kids while they are outside. 
It makes me so sad that someone who doesnt even live in the same neighborhood that I had lived. Would want to bash me for something on my personal page. 
It wasnt the first time sense she had bashed me every chance she got on my personal page for everything I posted. 
Going as far as to make fun of my having miscarriages.
I have never met any of these wives face to face. 

I fear for any other wives moving to this post. 
That they will be treat the way I was in the very short time I lived on post. 
After that we bought a house an hour away from post. That  way, hopefully the wives who were going out of their way to try to hurt me. Could not keep doing the things that they were doing. 

After the wives who posted that status  was removed off of my personal facebook page and started her drama and lies about me.
I was removed from every Fort Leavenworth facebook group that there is.
When I asked about why I was removed all I was told was that " I made all of the wives mad when I posted my personal business on one of the public wives pages. That I was not even a Army wife much less a wife of someone stationed on Fort Leavenworth." 
Its sad when I lived on post during all of this that someone so hateful and obsessed over my life would spread such lies about me.
Simply because I would not allow her abuse of myself and my friends to keep going on. I though my personal facebook page was just that. Personal! That I could post and remove any one off of my friends list that I wanted but it turns out. 

That's not true, their are these old Army wives who believe that they run Fort Leavenworth. 

Its sad that just because I am not 40 something years old that someone would try to mess up my marriage, any friendships I had on post. Not to count trying to get her husband to mess up my husbands career. 
For anyone who is thinking of getting stationed their please dont!

If you do and you dont have a choice watch out for the other wives!

What makes you different?

   ( Words from my past )

               Sitting here thinking, wondering about how things are, why things are the way they are! Why is it so many of my friends think I have it so easy. I have my Buttface (my nick name for my husband for those who do not know ) in my life who loves me with all of his heart, amazing kids, I am making new friends every day of the week and I am becoming happier and happier with each passing moment. My very best friend brought something to my attention with out even knowing that she did. Though out the years she along with a  few other people in my group. Have made me feel like I have always had it so easy in my life. I know I didn't and they know as well however there is the one thing that makes me different then they are. I don't accept anything less then the best, I work my butt off to make sure my life and the lives of my children and my MR are the best that they can be. I work day in and day out to make sure that the home I live in is as good as it can be. That my children don't leave the house with out looking proper and acceptable. I try my hardest to leave my house representing my husband. I want to reach for the stars and do an amazing job at everything I do!

           I try so hard to help each and every person who comes into my life and yet some people decide that they don't want to be better off then they were yesterday. Some people decide that they want to stay just as they are in yet they complain as if the world hates them so much. If you make your life harder then its going to be hard! Decide to change your life and it will be changed! you don't need to keep pretending that you don't need help because we all need help from time to time. If you want a better or different life then get off your butt and get a different life! I know that many people see my thoughts on this subject as mean, a pain in the butt, rude, controlling, and straight up unfair! however if you want a change you have to go out there and make it happen your self you cant just expect it to be given to you on a silver platter! That is not how life works at all! People are out there every day changing there lives so why cant you? What makes you different could  be the key to changing your whole life if you allow it to. Its all in what you allow to change your life, what you allow to control you life. Don't get stuck in the mind set of someone who doesn't want a better life, change is good! Even if we don't see it now we will in the future change is a good thing and no matter what we do we cant stop the on going change of the world!

So sit down and think about what makes you different from the rest of the world?
What can change your life for the better?

The Sisterhood .... where has it gone?

When I first got married I was so excited to be part of the Military life style. 

The sisterhood or the thought of the sisterhood was everything a girl could want. 

or so I thought ....

In all of the books they tell about how the Military wives are a sisterhood. That they stick be each other and are there for each other through the good and the bad. 

Yeah I know that is a fairyland where everyone is happy and there is not back stabbing.

Here are the facts for you!

   Good News Ladies!                                      

       Wives Clubs                                                                        

         FRG's                                                                                   

                                                                                             

   Bad News Ladies!                   

No one cares about the wives clubs

Few females are brave enough to join 

the wives clubs or the FRG's. They all 

seem to have died out. The " I don't want

anything to do with the wives clubs or 

FRG because " I'm not a lazy housewife"

I have a life and a career or just don't care

about being part of a wives group. I don't 

need them. They are nothing but drama.

     The Solution To The Problem! 

Get off of your butt and join your local spouse club, join the FRG and put your self out there!

We all know we need friends and people who really understand. 

The sisterhood can only survive if each and everyone of us put the effort into being part of it.

These clubs and the FRG are there to support all the wives and families, to bring us together and to make sure we all know the information that we need to know. 

                                                                                    

                                        Is there drama? YES! there is drama in life all together so put aside your opinion and stop thinking every FRG and wives club is the same. 

If the FRG or wives club isnt what you think it should be then get your butt off your sofa and change it! You can change it and make it a better group and help show other wives new and old what the sisterhood should be like! 

There a woman out there that wants to be alone, we all need a family and sometimes we are born with one. Sometimes we are pulled into one, or marry into one. Then sometimes you find you find one that cares about you more then you know .... you just have to find them. 

Power of the sisterhood

Yesterday I found myself scrolling down my facebook news feed when I read a post from Ashley Netzer stating.  

            " STOLEN!!!! Please help me get my baby carrier back. This was the one I desperately wanted for so long and is now discontinued. Stolen on post at JBLM Wa. Thank you! "

There I found myself feeling angry about someone stealing from another spouse.

Thinking that it would be okay.

Im not a baby carry wearing kind of mom but then again my kids are 8 yrs and 9 yrs old so there wasnt many carriers out there back when my kids were little. 

I found myself angry about the whole ordeal and it wasnt even my business. 

Today I woke up to see if hopefully Ashley had been lucky enough to have her Tula returned to her. However that is NOT what I awoke to see and oh how the update shocked me. 

 I found a wonder lady had mad a GO FUND ME page for Ashley. 

To help pay for her to be able to get a Tula, maybe not the same one that she had as that one has been discontinued at this time. However it has shown me and many like me that the power of the Military wife community.

Becca Ryan Falkey a Army wife her self  created the page to help show Ashley that even though someone stole her tula that there are people out there. Who will support her and show her how much the community cares about her. 

On the Go Fund Me account you will find this statement from Becca.

" Ashley's Tula was stolen out of her car which was parked in her personal driveway. I wanted to show her that as a community we can come together and support each other to make up for the scum bag that took it! "

After only 14 hours the goal of the $200 to buy Ashley a new Tula was met. 

Thanks to a few awesome giving people who wanted to make up for what someone unknown had done. 

The support of the community is beyond anything I could think it would be. I honestly wish that I could have done something to help her. but the amazing efforts of the Military sisterhood once again come though! 

If you want to know more about the story

check out the link below.

The amount of support and shares of this story proves that when your in need that the Military sisterhood will come though. We try every day to be there for one and other through the good times and the bad. 

I am so blessed to be part of such an amazing community that is truly there for each other. 

I hope that this kind of love and support will keep going to show every Military wife that the sisterhood stands!

That there are people that will be there for you and that together we can reach any goals we set!

New Tula For Ashley