That PCS Itch That Just Wont Quit

I know I can not be the only one who get it!

First off  for those newer to or not in the Military Life style.

PCS is Permanent Change of Station.

I guess I just love to move and explore some where new. 

Because I am going crazy and I want to move so badly.

It is like for real killing me!

I know that moving is stressful, annoying and it means that I will have to research where ever we are going and maybe even having to apply for command sponsorship. 

None of that matters I am just ready!

It has been almost two years since we have moved.... okay well not fully. We bought our house less than a year ago but still. For me I just love to move around and staying still is annoying.We have been wanting to move since well a few months after we got here. With not loving any of the wives at Fort Leavenworth. Not really enjoying it here until we moved into our new house. We have our list all ready for where we would want to move. Like every other Military wife out there .... or so I thought. 

I am an Army wife and the way the Army works is that your MOS ( job ) can go to select Army post. Some jobs can go pretty much any where but my husbands job can't.

We only have a few places where we can go so we know our list and where on that list we would rather go. 

When the time comes we will get a list of open positions for his MOS and rank. From that he pretty much picks which one he wants and he " applies " to get that job at that duty station. That starts when ever they say it starts and then we wait. Either the higher ups say okay and he gets the spot or he gets told no. If he gets told no he either applies for a different spot or if there are no spots then we play the " Hurry up and wait " game. 

Which is what we have been doing for the past year, just waiting to see what his options are. 

Hopefully we can get some good options and get to pcs with in the next year. 

My best friend is a Air Force wife and I just learned from her. That the Air Force can not do that same thing. That they have to go where ever they are told they are going. 

That you can be kicked out of the Air Force for denying orders. However we are hopeful to get to maybe pcs to the same duty station. I just learned about the equals list and though I do not understand how it works fully. 

So this is a learning process with having my best friend marry into a different Branch of the Military. I am just so blessed that she explains the new things that are part of her life to me. So that we still stay connected. It doesn't matter what branch a wife is in because we are all Military spouses. 

I love knowing that I have friends who understand wanting to PCS. I know I am not totally crazy since other wives feel the same way. I think the wait to find out where we will be moving is the hardest thing about the Military wife life right now. Deployment would be so much harder but for my husband that is not an issue right now. 

I personally know that I would love to go to South Korea. That is at the top of my list right now and I wish we could get lucky enough to find out we got orders to South Korea. 

However the place that we have been stationed that I really loved was. Fort Bragg, NC . 

I know I know so many people say they did not enjoy Fort Bragg but I really loved it.... that could be because I am a NC girl. It could be because I had so many great friends there that even the bad times where pretty good. 

If you have a duty station you love or hate feel free to share you opinion with the rest of us. 

From Here To Korea... why you shouldn't stay behind

        Okay Lets get real!

   The hardest part about being a Military Spouse is the deployments and training. Yes I know so many people like to throw quotes out there like.

             " You knew what you were getting into when you married him dont complain "

                " Oh my husband goes out of town to work I know how you feel "

             

         "  I wish my husband would go out of town like that you are so lucky " 

" Y'all have so many benefits if we got everything for free like that I would be okay with my husband being gone all of the time " 

or my personal favorite  

" You get to email him, and video chat so its not as hard as you pretend it is "

No words have made me  angry as fast as those people out there who like to act like we have it easy.

I know we dont have it as hard as some people out there in the world

however dang it! being apart from your spouse is hard and sucks!

I will never forget the day my husband first told me he was going to be moving across the world.

Right after we got married my husband told me that he was going to be getting orders

some where new. He had no idea where or when he was going to leave. 

Days later we found out that my husband was going to be going to AIT!

Across the country to change his MOS and at some point from there

he would be finding out where he would be getting stationed at.

The worst part of all was he was going to have to leave on 

MY BIRTHDAY!

I was angry and hurt but I knew " what I signed up for "....

( complete crap if you ask me but thats another post lol )

The days passed quickly and before we knew it he was off to the Airport

I was crying my eyes out wishing for just one more day .... hour or anything.

Just so I could keep my newly wed husband for a little longer.

He boarded the plain and off he went to start his training

Little did I truly know just how much our lives

would be changing. 

He went through all of his training and come graduation day I sat and watched as they

marched in. One by one being called out.

Before I knew it , it was over and it was time to say good bye again.

( Photo shoot of me and my hubby at

Fort Leonard Wood MO ) 

He had gotten orders for South Korea and was leaving

shortly after graduation.

We talked about it often trying to decide if I should try to go with him. 

However with a custody battle and kids there was no chance of us being able to go.

His job took up pretty much all of his time and with the time difference it meant when we were able to talk that he had to lose sleep. How he made it through I truly don't know.I know he was my rock through the long day and even longer nights.

Were were one of the unlucky ones, my husband didnt get to have his mid tour leave.

through everything we dealt with his hardship tour to South Korea almost broke our family apart.

Not because of cheating , or because he was being dishonest but because we were apart. 

Only 6 weeks after getting married we were apart for 14 very long months. 

The idea that we could make it through the year in Korea was one thing but the reality of the matter is that you should never decide to stay back. You should be with your spouse every chance you can no matter what you have to do. There is no reason good enough to have to stay in a different country as your spouse for any period of time.

Take it from a a wife who struggled with it and a family that now has to deal with the after math.

Of our family being apart for way too long.

Trying to get back together and be a family is harder then you think.

The doctors say it takes about 6 months to get back into a normal routine where you can feel like your family is whole again. However who wants to go 6 months like that?

Who wants to watch their spouse seem lost, confused and all around hurt because he so use to being alone that being together seems painful?

I know that this is not everyones story of the hardship tour to Korea but its ours. 

If you have a story you would like to share of guest blog please email me at

CatholicHomeschoolingArmyWife@gmail.com 

I know I couldnt have made it through that year with out the support of the Army wives around me!

If you need someone remember Im here for you!