7 Signs Your Relationship Is Toxic

Now days it seems that way to often people are dating/married to the wrong person.

Oh you know who I'm talking about we all know someone or a few someones. That are with someone they shouldn't be with.

        The way I see it their are ALOT of RED FLAGS! That people simply look right past for whatever their reason maybe. I know I'm guilty as can be of being with the wrong person.

Here are just a few of the BIG warning signs that you need to find someone new and better!

1. The Unlovable!

          The tell you in the way they treat you, the way they look at you and the tone in which they speak to you. Talking down to you as if they know you would never leave them. They ' know ' you couldn't do any better for what ever the reason. But they are wrong you are amazing, special and there are people out their who will adore you if given the chance.

2. They lie to you!

      Even the smallest lie matters, it changes your relationship forever. It means they don't respect you or trust you. If they are lying to you about anything then they might as well be lying to you about everything.

3. They forget about you!

      They seem to forget your alive if your not standing right there by there side. Even then you feel as if you aren't important enough to hold their full attention. They make plans with out you and inconvenience you when they do want to spend time with you. They act asif you should just take the time you get from them.

4. They abuse you!

     They put their hands on you , pushing , smacking, punching. Throwing things at you when they are man. Hitting the wall , doors and all around acting a fool. The reason is so you fear them. If you fear them then they win. They have beaten you down to the point that they know you will never leave.

5.  Trust Issues!

     They are the kind of people who go through your phone. They stalk you when your not with them. They act asif you must stay with them at all times unless they give you the okay. To be around only those who they are okay with. Closing you off from your friends and family members.

6. Selfishness!

    A real partner in life will always put your relationship and your needs above their own. For they truly love you snd your happiness means more to them then their own. A red flag is when they care only about their self. They do what is best for them no matter who gets hurt. They would sell the shirt off your back if it meant saving their own.

7.  Laziness

      If your struggling to pay your own bills and take care of your kids. While All Along your Boyfriend/GirlFriend. Sits at home putting everything on you while they do the bare minimum. Sitting at home not taking care of kids, not cleaning, not helping in any way or only doing a small amount that they should be doing. If your paying a baby sitter or daycare to take care of your kids while your working. Yet your " other half " is sitting on their butt not doing anything. Hello RED FLAG!!

    

  Here is the solution!

Dump who ever it is right now! If you have said yes in your head to even one of the above 7. 

Then its time you change your life

Right now! Today!

You deserve better you are 

Beautiful 

Smart 

Funny

Amazing 

Breathe taking

You can change the world!

There is someone out there right now

Looking for you!

Dreaming of you!

Waiting on you be in the place

And time where you will met each

Other.

So stop wasting you life and time

On someone who doesn't deserve you

Know your self worth

There is no reason good

Enough to stay in

A toxic relationship 

Just look at

The 

Red Flags

  

     

From Civilian Life To Military Wife

                           The New Life Of A Military Wife!

   Married Life in the Military is not what it use to be! The first things you need to know about being a Military Wife are life long lessons.

      I read all the books I could find on Military Life. All the books seemed to say the same thing over and over again.
    Here is what I learned about how to be a great Military Wife!
   

     
      * INDEPENDENCE
  
       The key to surviving a Military Life ( at least as the books all tell it ) .... When I first read that I laughed! Who would think that being independent would be the key to what some call a Dependent life.
      No I don't think that's the key to this life style though it is very much needed. You have to have your own life our side of your husband. You have to learn to spread your wings where ever the Military might take you. Get out of the house no matter what it might be and start building your life. Find a job, join a craft group, a running club. Whatever you are interested on as long as you are not sitting in the house every day. Simply waiting on your husband to get home from work day in and day out.

 


      * THE SISTERHOOD

       This is in my opinion the most important thing you can do. Put yourself out there in the world of Military spouses. No matter what your home branch happens to be. Army, Marines, Air Force, Navy or Cost Guard ( yes to me they are a branch ) Find your self a group of friends. There are sisterhoods out there for every branch. They are there to help you along your new journey. On every post there are Wives Clubs, FRG's  and other special clubs/groups. Get out there and make friends because you will need friends no matter what. .The days get long and lonely when your husband is away. Having friends who are in the same Military Life style as you are will help. They will be there to help you remember why you should smile. They  will help you remember why your part of this life. They will show you the strength of  the Military wife community when you need it the most. Let them love you, support you and don't be scared to be yourself.

  

      * RESPECT THE LIFE
       
      Though I can't say I agree with it so many people refer to spouses as " Dependents ." Or " Dependa " I dislike this word more then any other in the Military vocabulary. It is the most disrespectful word you could ever call me. I'm not a " dependa " simple because I'm a house wife. You have to respect the life and be greatful for it.  This life affords us each alot of advantages that we wouldn't normally have. We get health insurance ,( though who ever said its free lied ) life insurance,  and  an ID that gives is access to every Military instalation in the U.S. ( Yes you can get into other branches base/post. ( To the Army  it's called post ) Using your Military ID not just your branches base/post. We get to shop at the commissary and px. ( or whatever your branch calls it  for us Army Wives it's the PX ) These things are all a privileges and each and every one of us needs to remember to respect that. Those who don't respect the Military and privileges we get as Military spouses. Are often refered to as " dependas" and most of us all too often forget. That we are all dependants of the Military. No matter if you work or stay at home. You still have the same ID as the rest. So respect the life and all that comes with it. Don't complain about it because you never know when you can and will be kicked out of the life style.

  

      * PCS LOVE

   Yes you read that right, PCS Love! ( PCS means Permanent Change of Station ) What I mean by that is you need to learn to love pcsing. I know at first this can be so confusing and frustrating. You get to travel to places in the world. That you never dreamed you could go much less live. Pcsing can be one of the best times in your life or the worst. You get to learn new languages, see new places. You get to explore the world around you. If you chose to ,which I highly recommend. Every where you move there are tons if sites to see. We are luckly to live in a time where we can simply google. To find out about fun exciting things wait for us at our next duty station. Do your home work before you PCS and ask around about your new post. There are tons of Facebook pages/ groups for information about where ever your pcsing to. Use the resources at your disposal. Military Spouse pages and websites are there to help you.

    

      * FOLLOW THE RULES

     Yes there are rules of this Military Life we are all living or joining. Most of the rules are unwritten rules but nonetheless they are all important. Each rule is there for a reason and those who don't follow the rules. Seem to live unhappy short lived Military lives. The happiest wives from what I have seen and read follow the rules and set the standard for the rest of us. Etiquette is a big deal in this life style of ours. There are rules for every occasion and though some don't believe in following the rules. You should at least learn them. Don't think that you can avoid the rules or ignore the rules. They always catch up to you. You don't want to be stuck looking a fool because you don't know what you should or should do or wear at an event.

New Addition To The Family

      Oh my .... the things that come put of the blue so unexpected but hopefully a blessing in the end.

  While we were out and about today my husband was up to something. He played his hand oh so well as we made our way to KC Pet Project. Pretending he hadn't already looked online and decided what he was going to do.

As we parked he watched as a man walked a pretty cute but not my type of dog at all. That was it, all it took and I knew we were going from a family of 4 to a family of 5.

Her name is Cinderella,  aka Cindy.
She's 8 months old and oddly enough North Carolinas  state dog a Plotter Hound ( fun note every state has a state dog.... who knew lol ) Though I personally wanted an English Bulldog.... I think she will fit in our family just fine.

The kids love her and have already decided to spoil her rotten. Lol

My hubby, Hayley and Jay 

With our new puppy Cindy! 

Outside of the KC Pet Project! 

Link below

Cindy's first ride in the truck

http://kcpetproject.org

Please check out their website. Every animal deserves a loving for ever home!

The Begaining .... Where to start Homeschooling

First off  Do Your Home Work! On How To Start or Where To Start

•  The very first thing we did as a family was to of course register as a Non Accredited Private  School in the state we live in . ( Kansas )
• Then we wanted to look up the National Standards For Catholic Elementary and Secondary Schools. ( Here is the link for the English down load of the National Standards please email me for the Spanish down load or anything else you might need. )  http://www.catholicschoolstandards.org/the-standards/2014-07-13-13-36-30/download-the-standards

• Every state is different and has a different set of rules. For some it is very structured and others are very open. To allowing you the freedom to teach your children with little interference from the state. 
• We had to figure out what our resources were as a Catholic Homeschooling / Private Schooling family. ( here are some of the links we found very helpful.  listed below )  

                                                          Links

• http://www.catholicmom.com/catholicmom_com_links_homeschool_resources.htm
• http://www.homeschoolingcatholic.com/links/curriculum/
• www.hslda.org    <~ THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT LINK I COULD EVER SHARE. EVERYONE NEEDS TO HAVE LEGAL COVERAGE. 

•                                          My Favorite Blogs

• http://www.catholicallyear.com/
• http://totustuusfamily.blogspot.com/
• http://raisinglittlesaints.blogspot.com/
• http://hsjoy.blogspot.com/

                         Most Importantly Read the Bible! and Home School                       Blogs. They will help you figure out whats best for you

                Family. Try different ways of teaching what ever works 

                for your family! 

Truth Of The Struggle

       The truth behind the " No Child Left Behind ."  In North Carolina this " program " is to ensure that children don't get left behind. The North Carolina Public schools failed my children, Especially my son. The truth behind this program is IT DOESN'T HELP THE KIDS! I was held back in first grade for failure to learn how to read, my husband was held back in first grade for issues reading. We survived being held back and for the most part went on to have no problems reading. We both needed more time to learn, more one on one attention. The " No Children Left Behind " act/program fails the kids who truly need to be left behind. The kids who for what ever reason never learned what they should in whatever grade. Leaving a child behind is not a bad thing in fact I know it's a good thing. Whatever happened to doing what's best for the kids? When did learning become about statics and making the school look good?

        It breaks my heart my son's reading level is a 1.5 ( 1st grade in the 5th month of the year. ) If Jay ( my son ) were in public school he would be ending his 2nd grade year. He would be going into 3rd grade with a reading level of 1.5 and to the public school system that is okay. This fact is a huge reason why we decided to year round homeschool. ( or as its known in Kansas we placed our children in a year round private school ) My son struggles with reading and the basic stuff that he should have learned by now. So we start at the beginning and have been teaching Jay nouns, verbs. The basics of reading spelling and writing. His struggle breaks my heart. Noun work with his sister seems to really help him. He adores her and she loves to help him. It's a different approach to learning but it seems to work very well for our kids. My kids have not been " left behind " we just decided to redo their 2nd grade and 3rd grade year to help them. Learn what they didn't learn from the 1st and 2nd grades ( for Jay ) and 2nd and 3rd grades. ( For Hayley ) It is needed for their success in school in the future. Luckly I have kids who have gained a love for school and a passion for never giving up. 

It breaks my heart to think so many kids in the public school system are pushed onto a grade. That they shouldn't be going to yet, thst they aren't getting the help they need. Due to the failure of the teachers , system and honestly by the parents. In the end it is the parents that need to start standing up for their children's education. You can help your kids succeed in school you just have to stand up for them. 

"  What is right is not always popular but what is popular is not always right. " Albert Einstein 

Jay working on learning nouns on our white board. 

Hayley helping teach the Jay about nouns

Lego Land Adventure

         Green ones .... blue ones.... red ones and more .... legos are.                                                     always on my floor!

         

                                       The Lego King .... got him way a
                                                   LEGOLAND TOUR!

Our Experience At LegoLand

Going to LegoLand was all around awesome! 

We went for the kids thinking it would

Just be a kid thing. We had no idea

Of the amount of information we would come

Out with. Our kids learned so much from the tour.

The excitement in their eyes through out the whole day 

Was priceless. I could hardly get any pictures with

My kids or my husband looking at the camera.

He tried so hard to hide how much fun he was

Having along side the kids. 

It was well worth the money.

We try every chance we get to do family activities.

With my husbands work schedule it leaves

Us with working around when he works.

We try to plan day trips to local

 Places. Luckly we have a huge area that is always
Doing family friendly events.

https://www.legolanddiscoverycenter.com/kansascity/

Easter Fun 2015

            Our kids had such a great Easter!  They got to spend.                 time with their Nonna and  Martin.
           
               Their Easter Baskets from their grandparents were awesome. They were so shocked to have gotten such large gifts at dinner.

Baskets from Momma & Daddy

                    Dying Easter Egg's With Daddy & Momma! 

     

   

Family Easter Fun

All too often it seemsthat people have forgotten the real reason for Easter. Its not about some large bunny leaving candy 

Filled plastic eggs. Its not about a race to see who could get the 

Most eggs in their baskets. Its about Jesus , about how he died on the cross for our sins. sins. About how 3 days later he had risen.

From the grave! 

I can only hope my kids know the reason behind this great day! 

Remember The True Reason For This Day!

   John 3:16

For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have.           everlasting life.